good things come...

i think that one of the biggest adjustments you have to make as a parent is to all of a sudden not just think about yourself any more... it is no longer about what I want to do or what I feel like or what I think but more about what is best for the family esp the baby...

it is a hard thing, unnatural really and even harder when all you want is something that seems natural or important even...

for example, sometimes i terribly miss alone times with paul... sometimes we'd go months without really going out just us two ... and sometimes you just can't help it (especially when the baby isn't up for babysitters with the crying and such) ... what's wrong with wanting to spend quality time with your husband?  isn't it important to nurture our relationship too? so i complain to paul and drive him crazy and when things don't pan out for another week or two i complain even more and sometimes tell him he doesn't care (which is not true i know but it still drives me crazy)

but i am blessed with a great friend and partner in crime who listens to my whining and plans surprise dates even before i complain... and keeps his mouth shut when i start with my soapbox to keep his plans a surprise

so a word of wisdom (and caution)

... to those who wait

it might just happen

here's a pic of our third wheel